It was around my 31st birthday when my mom first met Treavor. He had just driven down to Austin from Dallas to celebrate my birthday. He made me this video, which still makes me smile. He also sent me pink-tipped purple roses to work. He stayed the night with me and my parents drove into Austin that next day. He hung around so he could meet them. When mom saw the flowers he gifted me, she asked if he was single. I said that he was. She said, “I can’t wait to see who becomes his boyfriend. If this is how sweetly he treats you, can you imagine what kind of boyfriend he would be?”
I shared the same sentiment for a different reason. I couldn’t wait to see who Treavor’s partner would be because I wanted to see who could be his match. Who could meet him where he is, appreciate him wholly, and give him room to grow without feeling threatened or smothering him? Who will laugh with him and go on adventures with him? Who will inspire him to keep striving to be better versions of himself? It’s a tall order I want for all my friends.
When Treavor started to date Dan, he gushed and gushed. It was such a pleasure to witness how smitten with each other these two are from afar and through the lens of social media. When Treavor requested I have a couple’s portrait session with them, I was honored but also a little nervous. The first time I’d be meeting Treavor’s “Dansome”, I’d also be charged with trying to convey their affection for each other through photography.
Within the first moments of meeting Dan though, what little nerves I had dissipated. He is gentle. He is approachable. He is observant and thoughtful. He likes Asian food. He prefers savory foods over sweets. I mean, he might be my kindred spirit! Oh, and most importantly, he’s crazy about Treavor and Treavor is crazy about him.
If you’re in Austin or Houston and would like me to shoot you, email me! I’d love to do the honors!
This week was unrelenting with terrible news. I’m hoping you find some peace in the company of your loved ones. I’m looking forward to seeing my family in Houston, with pup in tow. I will keep Martin Luther King’s words close. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.”
Here are this week’s links that made me feel things.
I’m almost done with Season 2 of Orange is the New Black. I hear Season 4 is amazing and heartbreaking. Here are some OINB facts.
I am so behind in my reading but had two 8 hour car rides where Sugarface drove. I finished three books! I thought A Tale for the Time Being was a great read though a bit dark. I enjoyed The End of a Story but I don’t think I’d recommend it to just anyone. It’s a slow read with no real plot. I read M Train because my friend Ashley said Patti Smith wrote about the show The Killing extensively.
Can’t wait to read this book. A new one from one of favorite contemporary philosopher, Alain de Botton.
I like that my friends send me Alain de Botton links. I enjoyed this podcast episode where he talks about relationships and sex. Thanks Treavor for the link!
“It’s a weird thing that some of our worst behavior in relationships is driven by some touching things… But of course we look so revolting that the other person is not in the position [to be sympathetic].”
Treavor and I met about 6 years ago when we both vlogged our lives every day for a month on Youtube. It tickles me to tell people we met on Youtube. Through the years, it’s been a pleasure to watch Treavor grow in all aspects of his life, but more specifically, watch him grow creatively. One of his favorite modes of creative expression is through words. He is currently pursuing his dream of publishing his first book, and he asked me to photograph him to mark this endeavor. I will always be a cheerleader for Treavor and his projects so I was honored to be part of his new exciting adventure.
We spent a whole day together and shot outside during relentless but light rain. I’m so glad I was the one behind the camera and not in front because I wilted under the humidity and moisture. While I wilted, Treavor seemed to bloom. It must be one of his super powers. I thought I’d share my favorite shots of him looking radiant and powerful despite the rain.
Happy Friday! What are you doing this weekend? Tell me in the comments!
I collect these links that make me feel things throughout the week and I noticed a somber theme to this week’s collection. I’ve always believed that grief is the price you pay for love and some of these links have beautifully conveyed that. I made sure to at least make a couple of the videos lighthearted!
Nothing is promised. The first piece I read about love suddenly lost. It’s a good reminder that no one knows how much time they have left with their loved ones.
But also, it solidified my belief on how vital it is to document your love while you have it. Whether that be through silly personal snaps and videos, or getting the most amazing professional engagement and wedding photographs that you can… Because, as awful as it is to think about, you just never know what might happen.
And lastly, this was a heart-wrenching read about the dissolution of a marriage. What was most heartbreaking to me about this read was the regret. How small decisions can actually be big decisions that irrevocably take you down a path you don’t want. This concludes my list of love lost reads!
Happy Friday, friends! This week seemed to drag on even though I had a full calendar. I think it was because I missed Sugarface while he was away for work. Good thing I get to see him tonight finally! I hope your weekend is refreshing!
Here’s this week’s list of pieces of the internet that made me feel things.
I spent the first day and last weekend in May at the same hiking trail and swimming creek with the dogs and Sugarface. Summer is finally here and the sweaty hikes and swimming adventures with our dogs are a couple of my favorite things about summers in Austin. Though much of the month was spent partaking in the usual activities of working, organizing happy hours for food bloggers, and grabbing bites with friends, I also attended two special events.
The first event was the yearly Fancy Dress Night with Sugarface’s work. I attended this event even before he did, when I used to work with his boss years ago. It’s so nice to still come to this tradition as an alum and a plus one. The second special occasion was the wedding of one of my besties, Thomas. Not depicted on Instagram was me officiating his wedding. It was such an honor and a special moment in my life.
With Father’s Day around the corner, I thought it’s a good time to share a few shots from my first baby announcement photo shoot. I enjoyed working with Laura and Milan and appreciated their easy nature and sense of humor. I know their baby will be surrounded by love when he or she enters this crazy world.
It’s Friday! This short work week felt long to me. I could not shake off the grogginess or the sleepiness! I’m hoping to rest up this weekend and feel better next week. Until then, enjoy this week’s list of things that made me feel feelings.
After taking her photos, I declared to my friends and the internet that I am seeking more opportunities to take portraits. My friend Julie obliged and let me do the honors of shooting her engagement photos. Not depicted on Instagram was shooting professional head shots outside my day job and at my alma mater.
The nonprofit I work with as a board member hosted an open to the public Curry Cook Off. We were worried about ticket sales but ended up almost selling out, and the bar was brimmed with happy people eating delicious curries. I plan happy hours once or twice a month for the same group and April’s happy hour was as photogenic as it was tasty. Also in event happenings, my writer friend Amy had a birthday picnic at my new favorite picnic table spot in town.
As for my home life, Sugarface and I plopped down on a comically small patch of bluebonnets and it was a wonder the photo was in focus since I was shaking so hard with laughter. We took the dogs to a new to us field. Bob the dog found a creek behind the field so though the field looked promising, it’s now best to save for bath day. Finally, the soup you spy is Asian comfort food. Rice porridge also known as congee. I made a big pot of chicken congee for us when Sugarface was feeling under the weather. I love the photo of the soup so much since I’ve eaten it all my life but never thought it was photogenic! It just needed some good light, props, and someone to believe in it.
Happy Friday everyone! I have a busy long weekend this weekend. Heading to Houston tonight to not only see one of my besties get married but also officiate his wedding! Before I head out, here’s my weekly roundup of links that made me feel feelings. Hope you enjoy and have a wonderful weekend!
This post by Anthony Boudrain captures what I love about his writing. It’s a heartbreaking tribute to one of his friends.